Parents, today’s generation has a hard time answering ‘why’ questions. Critical thinking is deteriorating because we fail to be inquisitive. We think that we need more hours during the day to foster critical thinking in our children when we just need time to conversate with them. We just have to start being more conscious of asking them why- “why do you think”, “why did you…”, etc. During a conversation, ask questions so they’re forced to think deeper than what they already know and go beyond their obvious senses. We cannot guarantee that school will be the primary source where they will learn this skill, because this generation, more likely than ours, just take everything quickly through their senses. They’re blasted with information, with lightning speed, without the downtime for them to meditate on it, for them to question it, challenge it, dissect it, process it. We have to remind them to think about how to think. We cannot tell them how photosynthesis works without understanding why it’s needed and the grander scheme it plays in the ecosystem. Without the why, there is just a presence of fact and absence of reason.
I’m finding it harder and harder to give forgiveness as I get older. I guess it’s because when you meet someone, you tend to become familiar with them and their flaws. Then as years compound and you realize those small things are actually things that will never change. One of the things I’m struggling with these days are friendships who don’t give back. In my late teens to early twenties, someone told me I had such a heart for people, and I was to take care of it because not everyone will have a heart that gives. They’ll take what you give and just leave it there. So while in college, I had a VERY hard time opening up to people, so much that one of my friends nicknamed me 20%- basically only revealing 20% of who I was. I realized quickly that most conversations in college end up with me on the listening end. This granted me some reputation of being somewhat of an advice giver, because I would always end up listening to people’s problems. When people needed to talk, they would come by my place, or I would receive the phone calls, or the coffee meets. My […]
Me: Guys, start cleaning up. If I see something that’s yours and not put away, I throw it out. They are YOUR things, you need to put them away. *10 minutes later Me: Zi, can you put my laptop upstairs and charge it? Zi: Mamam, this is YOUR laptop. If it’s your laptop, you need to charge it. *mischievous smile*
Our beloved Emma turns 8 today! Every year, we’re so thankful and proud of the things she’s accomplished the previous year, adding to her knowledge, skills, and experiences, and shaping the person who she is becoming. And every year, we consider it a challenge, but a great honor of being her parents. Making sure they understand mathematics and reading are important, but every child must have a mastery of such things. But raising respectful, thoughtful, disciplined, motivated, and God fearing children is more difficult in today’s generation. We can never exactly guess who she will be in the future, but we have the hope and assurance that the things she is being taught will grant her the tools to live as a blessing to those around her. Knowing the person that she is and watching her heart in action just humbles us. ——————– Dearest anak, beloved monkey, Em-Em, Zem, We love you so much. Thank you for who you are. Thank you for your great love, esp. towards your sisters, to your family and friends, even teachers. We have so many fond memories with 7 year old Emma, like spending time every night before bedtime telling stories, creating our […]
Zem, years 1-7 Dear Emma, It’s getting to a point where it seems difficult to remember how much you have grown ever since you were entrusted to us by God. I had to dig into our archives to even see how much you have grown, changed and matured through the years. Last year alone, you made your way into the 2nd grade, started learning violin and became an older sister the second time around. You have been a very good “ate” to your sisters and I’ve really seen you understand those responsibilities of what it’s like to be the eldest in the family. You are starting to develop your love for reading and writing and I hope that doesn’t stop. This year, we’ve seen your heart for those who are less fortunate than you and I really appreciate you for that. Em, I want you to remember that as long as you find refuge in Him, He will bless you all the days of your life. I love you anak. Thank you for being my daughter. Your Tatay.